The Fear of Being Kind: How and Why to Overcome It

The idea of kindness seems to be popular. However, I wonder when the fear of being kind became the norm. Has it always been like this? Is it post-pandemic? I think it’s a combination of things, frankly. If you’re unsure what I’m talking about, I’ll explain. Have you ever had something upsetting or tragic happen to you and feel completely …

My Favorite Things to Do Alone

Being alone with myself has always been something I’ve enjoyed, for the most part. In college, I was desperate to be with other living, breathing humans. After that, it completely changed and I realized my own company was not so bad. In fact, I loved it. Because I moved away to a new city post-college, I had a choice to …

5 Ways to Grow a New Art Business

Who else gets totally overwhelmed with all the chirping about ways to grow a new art business? While you could spread yourself thin, don’t. A few strategic ways to grow is going to save your sanity and keep you consistent. That way you see what actually works and what doesn’t, giving you a more narrow scope as to where your …

10 Things I Do to Reduce My Risk of Alzheimer’s

Alzheimer’s is a disease that I have no desire to discover. There is no cure, and the decline in brutal. While there are still many questions on how it’s caused, I’ve been reading materials from various credible organizations and listening to experts of what could cause it and how to reduce the risk of it. Some of these are simply …

My Relationship with Alcohol: 5 Ways I Learned to Lean on It

At the end of December, I decided I wanted to cut out alcohol for a month. It’s been a tug-of-war internally for a while, so I decided to jump on the Dry January bandwagon. For me, it wasn’t about punishing myself from the stuff. I wanted it to be a discovery of my relationship to alcohol more than anything, although …

7 Easy Dinner Ideas for All Days of the Week

I’m not here to give you specific recipes, but I am an idea gal. Sometimes we just need a little brain jolt to help us think of different meals we can fix for ourselves or our families. It’s easy to get stuck in a rut, but if you’re going to be in a rut, I highly recommend this list of …

Finding a Unique Valentine’s Day Gift

Toss the chocolate idea, unless your honey loves it that much. And certainly don’t take her out to dinner on the actual day – too much pressure and way too much of a cluster. Come home with lingerie and it’ll be used as fire kindling. If you’re anything like me, you want your partner to think outside of the box …

How to Save a Marriage: The Best Kept Secret

I’ve been married twice. The first time I got married, I had no idea how marriage worked. My first husband was Brazilian, living in Brazil, and he moved to the United States to be with me. We had a rocky relationship, and it only got more fraught as time went on. A couple of years in, we threw in the …

I Am a Work in Progress, Not a Failure

We love tossing the word failure around. It’s so easy to say we are a failure at our job, at a relationship, at parenting. Is it being a failure? Or are we all works in progress? My preference is the latter, because if I truly believed I was a failure because of all the things I “failed” at, my mental …

Making Friends as an Adult: The Realities

The evolution of my friendships has been fascinating when I look back on my life with friends. It’s directly correlated to how I have evolved. Because of my personality and how I continue to grow, it’s a challenge to keep friendships with many people from my past. Alas, those versions of me are long gone, although a few pieces have …