Starting Over in Your 40s

Life changes in your 40s. In fact, the day I turned 40 years old, I looked around at my surroundings and thought “this is not the life I want to live forever and I have to do something about it.” There was no denying the fact that I had hit, what may very well be, midlife, and if I wanted …

What Does Being Emotionally Unavailable Mean?

I’ve been there. I’ve been the person who struggled to open up to people who genuinely wanted to know me. Expressing how I felt seemed uncomfortable, unfamiliar, and sometimes even unsafe. That tendency led me into relationships that weren’t fulfilling for either person. Eventually, I realized I didn’t want to spend my entire life living that way. We can’t choose …

How to Stay Positive When Nothing is Going Right

I wasn’t always an optimist. The household I grew up in rarely felt optimistic or positive, and I remember thinking that optimism was for dreamers. Maybe it is, and I would now consider myself more of a dreamer, and I’m overjoyed about it. Over the years, with much practice and interest in becoming a more positive person, I can confidently …

Are Dating Apps Worth It?

Dating apps are strange, and that’s putting it mildly. From what I can deduce, most single people have tried them, deleted them, promised themselves they’d never use them again, and re-downloaded them days later because they got bored. They’ve become a popular way to meet, though much of the publicity around them on social media documents how miserable of an …

My Favorite Things to Do Alone

Doing things alone didn’t always come with the joy it does today for me. There was a time when I felt weird, uncomfortable, and awkward if I was by myself. Sitting at a restaurant as a singular person was out of the question for me – I would rather eat a peanut butter sandwich at home rather than dine alone. …

How to Connect with People

There’s a lot of buzz around connecting these days. We also hear a lot about people feeling disconnected. It’s ironic since there’s so much technology to connect us. What I’m seeing is that it’s being used in the wrong ways much of the time. The world (thanks to technology) is a much smaller place now in some ways, yet overwhelmingly …

How to Overcome Insecurity 

Insecurity is something that is not unique among any one person. It’s something most of us experience, whether in small or large quantities. Being insecure does not automatically mean being weak in nature; however, if it persists it can lead to overthinking, comparing yourself to others, fear of rejection, needing constant reassurance, and more. Typically it’s a learned issue and …

How to Raise Your Self-Worth

If you’ve ever felt confident on the outside but unworthy on the inside, you’re not alone. Self-worth is a topic I’ve gone very deep into over the last few years. It was perplexing to me why I appeared confident to others — and even felt confident at times — but never truly felt worthy of the good things that happened. …

How to Have a Better Mindset

Our mindset dictates much of our lives. It’s multi-faceted, and it’s not one size fits all. Our brains develop from our nature and our nurture, and everything in between, and each of us is 100% unique. Of course there are some common threads among us, but we are all wildly different beings, and that can be a great thing. Your …

How To Set Boundaries With Friends

Friendships are an area of my life that I have grown to realize is in the top tier of importance. As I grow older, I see that my friends are the people who show up in my life the most. My family of origin story is very complicated and complex, and I’ve opted to distance myself from them. So, over …